If doubt were always an undesirable state, there would be no “doubter’s dilemma.” It would be best to ignore it and carry on. But doubt isn’t so easily settled. There is a healthy form of doubt that is essential to our very survival. Imagine you are faced with a critical life decision, such as whether to have children. This is an important decision with lifelong consequences, and you don’t want to rush into it blindly. You and your partner want to spend time thinking through how your life will change and what is best for each of you. Doubt can be helpful in slowing down the decision-making process and motivating you to consider all angles of this important decision. It can help you listen to your partner’s concerns in an open, receptive manner. In this context, you’ll want to embrace your doubts as well as those of your partner.